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Childlife.ca e-news#32: Still Learning

“Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less.” — Marie Curie, Physicist, Chemist

Being in the field for many years, (too many to count), I’ve had the privilege of working with many amazing children, teachers and parents.

It has always been the children who were still learning to communicate their needs, dislikes, excitement, disappointments in effective ways that taught me I still had (have) lots to learn about understanding children‘’s development and behaviour.

When faced with some challenging behaviours (versus children) – head banging, screaming, whining, hitting me or other children, I have come to realize the most powerful tool in changing and guiding behaviour positively is the mindset of: “they are still learning.”

Whether they are 6 months or 6 years, 2, 12, or 22, they are STILL LEARNING:

  • How to communicate effectively and appropriately
  • How to use words instead of hands/teeth/screaming/whining/crying
  • How to get along, socialize, take turns, wait
  • How to deal with disappointment, frustration, anger…

Just as we wouldn’t consequence a child for incorrectly answering 2+2; we can start to move away from the default methods of “consequencing” behaviour or trying to “reason” a child out of the behaviour.

Instead, we can begin to view a challenging behaviour as a teachable lesson that a child is still learning.

Resetting the mind to “this child is still learning” helps teachers and parents to assess their own feelings toward this behaviour, this child, and look toward a positive solution and intervention plan.

Don’t find a fault. Find a remedy. — Henry Ford

Adopting the mindset of “still learning” allows us to draw deeper from the well of resourcefulness to find helpful and respectful ways in teaching a child who is still learning how to effectively communicate, socialize, and regulate their emotions.

Learning never exhausts the mind. — Leonardo Da Vinci

The only person who is educated is the one who has learned how to learn…and change. — Carl Rogers

After all these years, I know I am still learning – how about you?

For more information on this subject and other topics check out

  • our Beyond Behaviour Management series for teachers and parents – available on-site at your centre.
  • justask@childlife.ca for our latest workshop and services flyers.

Our Childlife Strategies that Work! Phone Consultations help teachers and parents sort out their unique behaviour situations and come up with strategies that work!
For more information justask@childlife.ca

Happy Learning!

Mary