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childlife.ca e-news #43: The Influence Factor!

Influence: to effect; to inspire, to impact; to encourage

Ever stop to think how influential you are—especially with children?

  • a smile, the way your eyes light up when they come into the room, a “way to go bud” word of encouragement;
  • a gentle hug just at the right time, all add up to how powerfully influential you are in the lives of those you touch.

What is significant about these easy, gentle kindnesses is that they are impacting our children. Their whole modus operandi is to emulate who and what they see around them; that is how they learn.

What we say and how we say it goes deep into a child’s soul. It influences their own behaviour towards themselves and toward others.

Now that the lazy, hazy days of summer have arrived (yeah!), let’s takes some time to see where we can ramp up our efforts to truly be the influential person we want to be – with our children, our families, friends, loved ones, neighbours and strangers.

5 Tools of Influence

  1. GIVE LOVE AND ACCEPTANCE: All of us, especially children are longing for that heart-spot to be filled with love and acceptance.
    We all crave and need to be loved, cherished and accepted for who we are – not what someone else thinks we should be but truly accepted for the strengths, likes, interests and areas of need that we all have.
    Enjoying children for who they are and not how they behave is THE MOST POWERFUL gift you can give to a child.
  2. SPEAK POSITIVELY: Bad days, bad moods can be instantly changed by seeing and speaking positively. “This isn’t so bad” “This too shall pass…” Count your blessings instead of your woes…
  3. PRACTICE KINDNESS: Three things in human life are important: the first is to be kind, the second is to be kind, the third is to be kind. —Henry James
  4. OFFER AN ENCOURAGING WORD: There is nothing like someone offering a word of encouragement when all seems lost or a complete disaster.
    Having someone to champion you and let you know they are there for you or better yet they tell you that they know you can do it is beyond powerful – especially to our children.
  5. THANKFULNESS: There is nothing like receiving a heart-felt, authentic thank you.
    Telling someone you love them, think the world of them, and/or thanking them for what they have done in your life goes deep within and stays for a life time.

“There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it.” —Edith Wharton

“Aspire to inspire before you expire.” —An Unknown Author

To discover more simple strategies to positively influence children’s behaviour and development justask@childlife.ca and we’ll send you our latest training and services flyers.

HAPPY LAZY DAYS OF SUMMER!

Mary

Mary Stuart, Director
www.Childlife.ca
justask@childlife.ca
905.420.0799
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