...inspire their best! e-news#37: Temper Taming, Part 2

Mary Stuart, Director,
One thousand days to learn; ten thousand days to refine. — Japanese Proverb

TEMPER: the tendency of someone to become angry; a state of being angry

TAME: to bring under control

Remember to Breathe!!

As we spoke about last time, self-regulation is a life skill. It is the ability to identify, control, adapt, alter, and manage our behaviours.

It is an attention-training method that teaches the brain to register anything happening in the present moment with full focus — without reacting.

In other words, “Everything is neutral. It is our response that makes all the difference. “

Strong emotions can be very “scary” to a young child: the sense of being out of control, the sensation of the heart rate going up, the blood flow increase, the energy coursing around.

It can result in screaming, crying = tantrum-ing. Realizing how complex and important it is to support children’s self regulation skills is the key to temper taming!

The first great gift we can bestow on others is a good example. — Thomas Morell

Temper Taming Tips

    • Viewing a child’s emotional outburst (tantrums) as a skill a child is still learning will help shape our guidance strategies to ones that are more effective and have long term benefits.
    • “Wow, you are so frustrated that you can’t put that puzzle together. Let’s take a deep breath and try again.”
    • Validating, reflecting and putting a label to a child’s feelings helps build the necessary feelings vocabulary and teaches how to get back to calm.
    • Just by intentionally talking about a variety of emotions we experience on a daily basis and consciously modelling how we get our strong emotions under control (back to calm) is a very powerful teaching tool.
  4. TAKE DEEP BREATHS and encourage your child to do the same.
    • Oxygen in the brain helps you think so you can respond versus react.
    • Breathe in: Let’s smell the flowers. Breathe out: Let’s blow up the balloons…

One generation plants the trees; another gets the shade. — Chinese proverb

B.E.S.T. Behaviour & Temper Tamer/Self Regulation Workshops are available on-site at your centre!

We provide customized training on this topic and other child behaviour and development topics. and we’ll send you our latest training flyer.

We shall never know all the good a simple smile can do. —Mother Teresa

Happy Days with Kids!